Getting me to sign up for the Husbandman course took a stretch. I had questions on my mind and thoughts of not being the target audience in this case. Don't blame me, as I have followed Kingsley Okonkwo's teachings for a while now. If I recall well, I have been following for the past 13 years. I have heard a lot, learnt a lot, copied a lot and seen some weird things he said through the scriptures come to pass. Now the Ijebu side of me was triggered by some pre-video session that was done, where some discount was given. Why not give it a try I thought? And I did.
So the course started today and what did I learn? Two major things.
1. The importance of a man having a relationship with God.
2. The importance of a woman in the life of a man. Here I mean a man having a wife.
3. As a man, you are called to be a leader in the home and not the provider.
In some climes, it is unheard of to stand by item 3. Don't get me wrong, you will provide as you lead, but you are not the source. God is the source. He can bless the home through you or your spouse. That is the difference. Here, we forget the label some societies have put on the man to be the sole provider of the home. No doubt, as the stronger one physically (not in all cases, I have come to see), the man has a responsibility to do most tasks and we can attribute this to leadership. With the mindset of a leader, the home wins.
On item 2, this is an advantage as you can do the journey better. As a man, a woman completes you. She brings another side of you that makes the team whole. I see the differences in Kiity and myself. As a couple, we complete each other. A simple example, is the way we think, she thinks wide and I, deep or she is prone to spend more and I, prone to save more. This financial example isn't about gender. I have seen the role reversed in other couples.
Thinking of Kiity and I, I treasure the marital counselling we had with Rev. Omowo. She says this too. Other couples I have met that had this experience also say this. Now, I wish I had recordings I could share with others. But definitely would buy all his books so I can give others. I have got some but would like it distributed more.
There are 7 more days of the husbandman series and I would drop a note for each session.
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